While trying to come up with a topic for this week’s blog, I keep coming up empty-headed!
My overworked brain keeps coming back to the overriding thought that I’m moving house in less than a week and I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO.
So, why fight it? Let’s just wallow in the misery of the sheer number of concurrent and subsequent tasks I am juggling at the moment. And of course, on top of all extraordinary events, normal life just chugs on in the background. The kitchen remains open with food shopping, meal prep and dishes still magically appearing. Clean clothes, sheets and towels are happening and the dogs are getting walked. Through all this, the mum taxi is still on standby, however discretionary housework has taken a hit! And not surprisingly, the demands of your job does not disappear because you are moving!
Time warp! It’s now one week after the move and although things have settled down somewhat, I have been musing over the impact of moving home and why it is such a profound disruption. I have decided that it comes back to our relationship with our home, and what having a stable sanctuary actually means to us.
I asked the internet “why is moving house so stressful?”and Quora summed it up for me:
“For most of us, home is our safe place. It’s a sanctuary and a haven. Moving requires destroying our sanctuary, leaving us adrift in what may very well be a promising new place but it sure isn’t a haven when it’s filled with boxes that need to be unpacked and an unfamiliar (possibly hazardous) path to the toilet when you wake up in the middle of the night. If that isn’t enough, it’s pragmatically annoying, difficult and more expensive than you planned for it to be no matter how careful you were. Yeah, I’d call that stressful.”
So, bringing it back to HAPS as I tend to do, if our relationship with our sanctuary is so important, why do we tend to ignore the fundamental, ongoing needs of our homes and feel that they just ought to protect us? To illustrate what I mean, here is a simple example from my new home; the heat pump wasn’t working when I moved in. I got a quote for a new one, but then decided to get a technician around to have a look and see if it was salvageable. He spent about an hour pulling it apart and cleaning it and now I have a fully working heat pump for $69. Why was it not working? Although I know the previous owner had an expert in to “fix it” when it hadn’t been working properly, the technician told me it had clearly NEVER been cleaned since the day it was installed, about 7 years ago. And this is not an unusual situation. How many of us tend to spend money on a project or one fix-up job and then absolve ourselves of all ongoing responsibility? Is this because we feel our home has an obligation to protect us so our obligations to protect our home are ignored? At HAPS we continue to explore and uncover elements of the ways we tend to ignore the ongoing responsibilities of caring for our houses think it is time that we take the blinkers off and start to really engage with our sanctuaries proactively.